Relationships are always hard! Breaking up with someone you are still in love with is surely one of the hardest things you might have ever gone through. And it doesn’t help at all if your Ex has moved on to her next relationship and is busy seeing someone else. That final nail on your coffin makes you lose all hope of winning her back and rekindling your lost love. But should you give upon your love that fast? Could you get your ex back even if she is already dating? A simple and straight ‘Yes’ is the best answer to this! With the right steps and right moves, making her fall for you isn’t going to be impossible!
Winning your girl back isn’t exactly rocket science but it is a science nevertheless. Doing the right things and having the right mind set for this is really important for that to happen.
Do not lose Hope and be Patient
Patience is the key to getting back your ex-girlfriend from her new guy. Believe in your ability to make her fall for you and give it some good time as well. Do not rush into being hopeless and disheartened. Remember that a hopeless guy is never a winner! And on the other side, a patient approach is going to do you wonders. Give her enough time to figure out her true feelings for you.
Relax, it is most probably just a Rebound!
This new guy she has made a straight jump to is in all probability just a rebound relationship she has gotten herself into. Do understand that the chances of it getting serious or working out well is going to be very very slim. All you have got to do is to give it some time. Just relax and let her figure out that she is in fact in a pointless rebound relationship. Compared to the beautiful strong relationship that you both shared, this new guy is never going to be a good substitute for you. Meanwhile, stay clear of doing anything stupid that could worsen your case.
She is going to try to make you jealous, do not fall for that Trap
Rebound or not, it might be real hard for you to the digest the fact that your ex-girlfriend is dating someone else. But for our plan to work, make sure that you stay cool about it! There might be instances when you see her with this new guy, but you should be completely cool about it. Do not show that you are jealous or that you do not approve of this new guy she has found. Hold your anger and emotions even in the worst possible scenarios. Never act rude with the new guy she is dating. It is important that you act mature and cool about the new relationship she is in. This mature behaviour you show would confuse her and she would soon start to get frustrated and in the end would lead to messing up her new found relationship.
Rebounds don’t Work, but could work in your Favour
A rebound relationship is a quick, stupid decision taken by your ex-girlfriend to get over your broken relationship. There is never much true love or passion in such a temporary relationship. Even if this rebound guy turns out to be a nice guy, there still won’t be much connection between them. This guy most probably would not be compatible with your girl and sooner or later, she would realize that it was just a big mistake she made. The rebound relationship might have turned out to be a truly miserable experience for her. It is natural that she would be comparing you with this rebound guy and you would easily be the winner if that is the case. This would flood in her mind doubts about breaking up the great relationship you guys had cherished.
Give her enough time to Think
Once you have heard that her rebound relationship isn’t working out well, do give her enough time to ponder over the mistake she made. Make sure that you do no move in too fast and too eagerly. She would need some time to get the rebound guy out of her mind and replace it with you.
When the Right Time comes, Act
Once her rebound relationship has begun to go down under, it is time for you resume small conversations with her. Something as simple as a casual text message is a good start. Make sure that you take it slow. Use the vulnerable state she is in to your advantage. Start out with casual topics and show that you are there for her. Slowly and steadily, climb back into her heart.
Casual Conversation and Meet-ups
Begin casually! She is probably looking for a friend and that is exactly what you have to be for the time being. Do not give it away that you are still sexually interested in her. Casual conversations and meet-ups can slowly be turned into slightly flirty attempts to get back with her. Take it slow and do not scare her with a surprise move.
Let her Know when you are Ready
If everything works out well, it is time for you to drop hints that you want to get back with her. Tell her that the time apart has made you realize how important she is to you. Convince her that you are going to work on the mistakes you made the last time. With better communication, effort and a lot of patience, you could turn your relationship into a long term commitment.
Other things you should Take Care of while she is Seeing Someone Else
It doesn’t mean that you should just leave it to her new boyfriend to mess it up for you to clean up and take control of. There are other things to be taken care of if you want to get back with your ex-girlfriend who is seeing someone else. It is important that you sell yourself as the best guy she has ever been with it. Try and be the perfect gentleman anyone would want to be with.
Time to Introspect
This little time apart should be used to do some introspection and self-examination. It helps to figure out why she decided to walk out on your relationship. Rewind and realize your mistakes and the next time, improve upon them! Learn what went wrong and what could have gone better! Next time, make sure that you approach your relationship with a bit more maturity and responsibility.
Think from her Point of View
Change in perceptions could ruin relationships. Everything changes based on where you look at it from. View everything from your girlfriend’s angle and try and put yourself in her shoes. This could help you understand what she wants and why she does certain things in certain situations. Doing this could help you understand and fulfil all her expectations!
Admit, Learn from and do not Repeat your Mistakes
It is simple mistakes that ruin your relationship. It doesn’t hurt to admit your mistakes and improve upon them. She would appreciate your honesty and the effort you take to correct your mistakes.
Attract your Ex-girlfriend
It is your personality and attitude that matters the most and decides if you are attractive. Nurture and project all the qualities that she used to like in you. The past breakup should not make you less confident about your chances and ability to make her fall for you. Women like men who have confidence and self-esteem.
Avoid Contact while she is Dating someone else
Trying to contact her is a thought you should surely stay far away from. She will surely be thinking a lot about you and it would make her wonder why you aren’t trying to contact her. This curiosity would in the end get the better of her and work in your favour.
Live your Life and Do Not Sulk
Try and get back to your normal life as soon as possible. Pick up some new hobbies, make new friends and go ahead with your life. A guy who springs back into a lively life so fast is always attractive! And no brownie points for guessing that a sulky guy isn’t.
And last but not the least – Win her back, but never by losing your Self-Respect
You can do everything mentioned above to get back your girl but do not lose your self-respect while doing so! Never beg or plead her to take you back. A guy with no self-respect is never attractive! You would end up making yourself look like a needy loser! If you do not respect yourself, your girl wouldn’t too!
Be yourself and do not Try Too Hard
The bottom-line is that you have to be an even better version of the person she was once in love with. Most importantly, be the guy she fell in love with and not the guy she broke up with!