Can I get my ex back? That’s a good question that many people will try to answer for you, but in the end the choice is truly yours. This is good news, isn’t it? Rather than having to worry about your relationship being in someone else’s hands, you can know that you have the power. You’re probably not feeling like you do have much power right right now, but that’s ok. Thats’ what everyone goes through when they get their heart broken.
Changing your attitude is what really makes the difference.
You have to get in the mindset that you were when the relationship first started. Remember how on top of the world you felt? You probably felt like you could climb any mountain you wanted. You probably felt like a million bucks. What you have to do now is concentrate on bringing that feeling back. That alone will play a huge role in getting your ex back forever.
If you’re still wondering, “Can I get my ex back?” though, you aren’t at the point where you believe in yourself yet. If you were, you wouldn’t even have to ask that. Don’t worry though, I was in that exact same position. I never thought I’d feel confident again. I felt like I wasn’t worth anything. But you have to get that confidence back if you ever hope to have them back.
This is also one situation where seeking the advice of your friends will help. I always recommend not asking them for specific dating advice because they will usually give you wrong, conflicting advice. However, they are very good at boosting your self esteem after a breakup. They will tell you that you’re the best person in the world and tell you that you can get anyone you want. You have to let them say this stuff and soak it all in. Unfortunately, people really only say the nicest things about you in the hard times. However, this is your chance to take the extra boost. With it, you should have enough to get your ex back.
Winning Back Your Ex
Winning back your ex is not impossible. In fact, if you get a hold of yourself and start thinking with your brain instead of your emotions, you can do it relatively quickly and easily.
Think about it for a second.
Have you ever seen someone desperately trying to save their relationship? I’m talking about someone that just got broken up with and now spends all day, every day thinking about their ex. All they want to talk about is their ex (whether they’re saying good things or bad things). They text, e-mail, and call their ex multiple times throughout the day. If you’ve ever known anyone go through a very hard breakup, you will have witnessed this.
Do you remember what you thought when you saw this? You thought that your friend looked pathetic and that they were just making things worse. You thought that they were wasting their time and should move on.
And do you know the most important lesson?
You probably saw exactly how ineffective it was. You saw that no matter how much stalking and harassing your friend did, their ex would not come back. In fact, it probably made things a lot worse.
Do you see what I’m getting at here? It’s so easy to see how foolish this behavior is when we’re watching someone else do it, but when you’re in the situation where you desperately want your ex back, what happens?
You do (or really want to do) exactly the same thing.
Why is this? Why do we throw our logic and rationality out the window? Because we’re hurt. That’s why it’s so important for you to think rationally when trying to win back your ex. You have to step outside of yourself for a moment and see how futile trying to harrass and beg your ex to take you back are. You have to keep your head on straight.
By simply being calm, cool, and collected, you will greatly improve your chances of fixing things right from the start.
Here’s what you need to do:
- Pretend you are a friend of yourself.
- Picture yourself going to yourself for advice.
- Listen carefully to what the rational part of you would say
- Follow that advice
That’s really all there is to it. You need to think rationally, because if you do think rationally, you won’t make things worse. Now, if you already have acted desperately and pushed your ex away even further, don’t fret. You still can make things work. It will just take some advanced tactics along with you acting rationally.