I understand what you’re going through right now if you’re trying to know how to get your ex girlfriend back even though she already has a new boyfriend: you feel a lot of jealousy, resentment, contempt and regret for everything that has happened, and your strong feelings are now intensified because of the fact that a new man has come into your ex’s life. It is perfectly understandable, and I know you’re in a very desperate situation at this very moment. Every second passing by, you’re losing your grip on your ex little by little, and you feel like there’s nothing you can do to stop it.
I have good news for you, however. You can get your ex girlfriend back, but the plan involves a lot of denying and pretending. This is the only feasible way to protect your feelings and at the same time arouse your ex girlfriend’s curiosity about you once more.
Let me stress this a little bit, however: your ex girlfriend will be the one to finally make decide whether or not your relationship is over, and any potential solution to your relationship woes do not guarantee 100% success. What you can do, therefore, is influence her decision by making her realize that you are the one that she should be together with rather than her current boyfriend. Below are some tips you can follow on how to get your ex girlfriend back when she has a brand new love:
Initiate “No Contact”.
As a guy, what you can do right now is to give your ex girlfriend a lot of space and freedom that she so desires. Therefore, you shouldn’t make any attempt to contact her, not one bit. And even if she tries to contact you first, don’t respond immediately. Wait until the a few weeks into the breakup before you take action. This will send a signal to your ex that you also need the space and that you were severely affected by the breakup. Also, it will make your ex think that you are not being needy and desperate for her, which is also a plus point in any case.
If you think that the time is ripe to communicate with her once again, you must still wait for her to commence contact first. This will give you the upper hand because it will give the impression that you weren’t missing her that much, making you very “inaccessible” and “exclusive”.
In the meantime, enjoy life.
While you give your ex girlfriend a lot of space, you must enjoy your life and move things forwars. That is one of the most effective ways to truly get over the breakup and to become happier without your ex. Go on trips, meet new friends live or on facebook, or focus on work.
You must be able to demonstrate to your ex that you won’t be stopping your life just for her, that you are strong enough and you are able to find happiness without her. This will make her think again about the relationship.
Be a friend.
When you enter your ex’s life once again, you shouldn’t get too attached with her life. Rather, you should act as an outside “observer”, someone that she will run towards to whenever she encounters problems. This approach of a friendship will help you in two ways: first, it gives her enough space not to suspect that you’re planning to court her again, and second, you will also gain the respect of the new boyfriend for not crashing into their lives all of a sudden.
After a while, your ex will be accustomed to you becoming a part of her life once more and it will only be a matter of time before her current relationship with her boyfriend will get into several complications. Just be there for her whenever she needs a helping hand or a listening ear, and you’ll be sure to win her heart once again after she breaks up with him. Be ready to catch her when this happens and make her happy every step of the way.